We can still be friends

[liono]

her XH started becoming violent and abusive when their M was falling apart, so I think some bad memories there).

So she has been married before?
And her marriage is failing again.
Seems like a trend.

What is the common denominator here?

Yeah, same thought occurred to me. Trying to figure out a good way of asking "hey so were you this critical and judgy of H #1?"
I mean for sure, the guy was a Class 5 a*hole. But I'm willing to bet there is something more to it. Patterns. Not going to bring it up for now, just more focused on me, but we are going to MC so maybe it will come up.