Yes, I think awareness is the key thing. We may find our automatic reactions are the same in a new R - but if we catch ourselves and question that, we can change our behaviour which in turn changes the dynamic.

I guess the thing that helps me is to recognise that people may come and go in my life - XH, possible new R etc - but ultimately I am okay and will be okay.

Your NG sounds nice and I would take things day by day and enjoy yourself. If there are things you want to work on separate to that R, then great...

Take care xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus