Another thing though, W expected me to trust her completely from the moment she told me there was nothing going on. I asked her to be open and honest as she still worked near him but I didn't get that. Her response when I confronted her was that "I didn't trust her so she might as well go do it". She didn't want to earn my trust back, it was to be given back freely. The contact began building in 3 months, every month then on it was getting more frequent but she wouldn't tell me, wouldn't be open about it. My problem is I didn't set good boundaries and didn't have any consequences for breaking them. We just ended up fighting instead.
If I had have found this site last year, things may have been different but I also don't think my W has ever grasped he concept of an EA and how that effects her actions towards the relationship. I'm not sure she ever will either.
