What Should I be doing (5)

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And it will get easier with time. It will. No one could have told me that one year ago or even 6 months ago. I am going on 14 months, and I can tell you, I am in a completely diff place now. I am detached. It just takes time, working on yourself, however if you don't like what your W is doing, then by all means, listen to yourself. If in time she is still behaving in a way that you don't like, then you can reevaluate the M then.

-Blu

Wow. 14mos. Scares the doodoo out of me. I'll be at 1 month in a few days. I'm not in a completely different place, but I see myself on a positive path trending upwards. I recognize the things I haven't liked about myself, am out GAL, texting/calling little to none unless specifically about S (still need to improve here), don't linger when she's around, am positive and upbeat, keeping my mouth shut when I want to say something I shouldn't (whether it's I miss you or WTF are you doing!). I guess it's too soon to judge whether she actually misses me or not, or to spend much if any time thinking about it.

Blu, it would be very helpful to me if you could tell me what you did in the beginning that helped you so much. Should I just find your posts and start there?

Thanks!!!