And this is where I get unsure/confused. Through a lot of my research, part of what I've read was to be very agreeing, to not 'rock the boat' and try to avoid argument. And also, to be extremely consistent in what I say and do. That being said, I had always agreed that I would give her access to those. (I have 2 streaming boxes, she took one)
What you may fail to realize is that the above researched advice was probably about how to improve a M that had problems other than a wayward wife. Also, if you compare various sources, there will definitely be varied advice.
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I understand letting her figure things out on her own, which I have every intention of letting her do, but it seems counterintuitive to say one thing and then flip and do another. I want to be as consistent as possible. Am I wrong in that?
You mean like when you put your foot down over the coffee thingamajig and turned around and let her have it? Too bad you didn't put your foot down with her a long time ago.....especially in areas that actually carried some weight!
Look Digit, I don't think you are confused at all. I think you are just trying to justify what you are doing. I think you are doing what Digit wants to do. Why? B/c you are a nice-guy type and that is how you operate. You want to do all the nice-guy things and hope to get your wayward wife back. While I dare say, your nice-guy ways had a lot to do with why you are where you are.
Why don't you research the nice guy syndrome?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
