Hi mleigh4. I'm just catching up on your sitch and wanted to stop in.
I agree with the others that it sounds like your H has a ways to go in realizing that you aren't responsible for all his discomfort and unhappiness. But, at least he's talking and that gives you some insight into where he is on his journey.
I'm glad you have found ways to find some peace. I think that's something all of us here yearn for.
Hugs to you 2T
Me: 59 and holding H: :53 Me: 1 S, 1 D, both grown M: 19 T: 23 BD: 9-23-2013