No I agree, I felt (despite her am saying otherwise) that she had checked out before that. I even raised it with her, I think this is why I'm really in a feeling of not being bothered if she were to try and come back. I have felt like I have been living a lie for too long and it's always been my fault for our problems. She has never looked at herself within our relationship and I don't have the feeling she ever will.
There was no remorse and there was no interest in doing something for me, I was burnt from building our house, friends told her so and suggested she took me away for a weekend even offering to take our kids so we could go away just together but I don't think I was worth it to her by then...
Sorry for hi-jacking your thread Coconut.
Si_07, no worries, I appreciate your comments as you've been there and done that, not hijacking at all.
You have experienced what I fear the most and knowing how parallel most sitches run, I appreciate any information you provide. One thing that I find interesting is that your W came to you, admitted the feelings for OM and said she chose you, then went to OM 4 months later. Do you know what happened in that 4 months that changed your W's mind? you mentioned not going to IC or MC, but where you pushing, did your W just never get over OM?
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
