I find your xh's behavior absolutely appalling, very rude and very, very disrespectful of you and your daughter. The comment he made to you on the phone, no less in front of his daughter, was awful. I could smack the BS out of him. No one should have to put up w/that behavior.
Ginger, you've come a very long way and are still learning that you need to respect yourself first. You've worked very hard to get to where you are today. You've got such a kind heart and are always putting others first...it's time now to put yourself first and show your daughter how much you respect and love yourself. She needs to see that you can be self confident, independent and yes still have someone in your life that treats you w/the utmost respect.
I would be concerned about your daughter's comment about her father being such a "monster". It sounds like he acts out quite a bit and that's not a good thing.
Your IC is a blessing and she'll be there to guide you as you continue to meet w/her. Never ever allow someone else to tear you down. Again, you've come too far to allow this to happen and that even means the xh. Call him on his BS. Don't be afraid to do so. The more you do this, maybe, just maybe he'll finally learn to respect you for who you are...a beautiful and strong woman.
So, w/that being said...it's time for a new thread.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
