When my WAW is upset should I ask her why? It is often genuine upset. Or. Should I wait for her to talk then validate?
Surfer,
The WW is perpetually upset about something.
As an example, throughout our marriage, I'd always put the toilet seat down because I was being respectful of my wife. (Long ago I had a GF that hated seeing the toilet seat up so that started the tradition.) One day I forgot to put the toilet seat down. That upset my wife. She told me that I was purposely trying to make her mad. When I told her I didn't do it on purpose she retorted that it was my subconscious trying to get back at her. Huh? There was no convincing her that it was meaningless.
That was me several months ago. Today I'd handle it differently. I'd tell her my wanker grew and I was tired of it resting on the toilet seat so I'm leaving it up from now on. And that would be that.
