A selfish person would never make it that easy ... I guess they would have to inflict more pain to satisfy them.. [/quote]

Good call. Its all about them. Well done on not asking about her night out, I know its tough but you must detach and let her think she is running the show and realistically she is. You lost your balls, I lost my balls but at least for me, I've reached my tipping point..... I feel like our marriage is a house and she keeps starting little fires trying to burn it down, knowing that I will rush in with a fire extinguisher and put it out. Since she has moved to the basement, what she doesn't know that now is I'm throw gas on the fires she starts! She has made her bed, now she needs to lie in it!

Be strong brother, you can't worry about her actions... Free will.

In in the end - actions speak louder than words, you must live with your decisions and the consequences and finally...."We are our choices."

Me 45 W 39
D: 8,6
Married 14 years
Start MC: Sept '15
BD: 3/30/16
End MC: 4/21/16
PA confirmed: 6/8/16
W moves to basement: 6/12/16