Not sure if I have written this before but will do it again. Several years ago, I nearly walked away from this relationship. A number of things were not right for me and I was having some issues. There wasn't anyone else directly involved and I wasn't thinking of leaving for anyone else. I never actually left but did hurt my W, I did get some counseling at the time and worked out a couple of my issues and why I was feeling the way I was. My W did no work on herself, I did all the adjustments. One thing is, I never told her at the time I had seeked some help or understanding, I only told her last year. She told me that it hurt her more and knowing I had spoken to someone would have helped her heal. I guess this is a reason I had thought of writing a letter now having learnt more about my mistakes. It would be different than before.
However, I'm still in my own process as to if I want to save this marriage. I still have the feeling that my W will not look at herself, the problems have always been mine. I have been blamed for my own failings and many times for her own.
