Just a quick observation.Yes if you can interact from a detached place it is good. BUT you are not detached.You are improving but youare not detached.

It is tough. You are doing well but revisit detaching could help now.

Maybe mindfulness or cbt could help with those moments where you lack motivation on your own. If you can do stuff with people no reason you cannot on your own.

Best wishes

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together