Jz, I hate to say this, but your gonna be stuck in the mud until you pull yourself out of it... When you get fed up with worrying about what he is doing and decide your gonna do what's right for you. Are you tired of sleeping in MBR with a H who has a fantasy or real EA with OW? If so, tell him that you will not share your marital bed with someone who has or is trying to bring someone else into your M. Stand up for yourself, tell you H what you will not tolerate. Try not to get angry or emotional, just tell him matter of factly.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized