So the big question remains - how do I get her back? That's the point of all this, right? Busting divorce?
Yes, the point is to prevent this from getting to D but you've got to STOP thinking about "how to get her back." There is NOTHING you can directly do to make her come back. You've got to get your attention off of her and put it on yourself. She has PLENTY of her own problems. She's an unmedicated Bipolar. And she's living with your EW? That's crazy. There is a possibly that no matter what you do, you will not be able to get her to come back because of of HER issues. All you have control over is YOU. Put your focus and attention there. Work on Shawn. How can you become the most amazing Shawn ever? Figure out what that is and what that looks like. Then make it happen. Build confidence in yourself. Let it ooze from your pores. Drop her like yesterdays news. THAT is how you get her back.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
