Thanks AJ. I find helpful your suggestion that I not allow friends/family members to re-remember the past for me.
Monday was d19's b-day. Yesterday was mine. I took the youngest 2 kids to a movie. We finally saw 'Cpt. America, Civil War'. I brought the kids back to W's after the movie, but W did give me some left-over cheesecake from d19's b-day. It was delicious.
I then had a visit from d21. She is due in August and looking big. She brought me a grandpa shirt and hat. I'm just not ready yet to be called 'grandpa', so my response to her gifts was lukewarm at best.