Did Not See It

[LiM]

No. Trying to reconnect with her right now would only push her away. I'm speaking from experience here so please listen with your heart.
I was emotionally absent and unavailable to my W and daughters. For YEARS. I was so consumed and depressed with work related issues (I founded and run a medical device startup) that I had no place in my life for anything but my own misery. Even before starting my current business, I allowed myself to be consumed by my own issues at the expense of the needs of my family.
After discovering my W's A, I kicked her out of the house and continued working on ME. I did not pursue. It made her angry. She DID see that I was changing; that I was becoming a different person. And that mad her mad too. It was only after she was willing to let go over her resentment and anger that she was able to appreciate the changes I had made and begin to regret her choices.
I know it seems counterintuitive but it is the way forward. You've got to give her time and space. If you truly make changes in your life, permanent, meaningful changes; she will see them in time.
Right now, you have to let her go. When she is ready to see the "new" RDS, she will let you know. It will be obvious. But it will take time. That time is a gift to you. don't waste it.