Not having any contact with my W is driving me crazy. I know it's part of the LRT, but even during the last year of us living together we hardly ever spoke. I wonder if this is really the way to go.
What you have to realize is that right now, your W DOESN'T want you to be in contact with her. Trying to connect with her will only drive her away. My WW was angry about my detachment and going dark but when I talked to her about it, she agreed that it would have only pushed her further away if I had pursued. So don't do it!
You're doing ok. Keep up the hard work. DETACH and focus on YOU. Find out how to become the most amazing RDS that there has ever been. Learn how to be happy on your own. Learn to be enough for yourself. This builds confidence and other people (including your WAW) WILL notice. Give it time. There are a lot of years of pain to overcome. Your W didn't decide to do this on a whim. She will have to see changes in you and that they are genuine. That is what you need to be doing right now.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
