Moving on

[Painter]

Ginger, that's horrific. I really think they just can't live with themselves if they admit what they've done. I know H thinks of himself as a nice guy. Nice guys don't cheat on their wives. So it's a cognitive dissonance situation where he has to change his behavior or perceptions to not feel mental stress. It's easier to change perceptions - decide that this somehow had to happen, was out of his power (like H had to move OW in due to her financial situation) than to change the behavior because that would also include an admission of having done something wrong.