Hi Painter, I can understand it feeling difficult to look forward. The only thing I would say WRT to your H is you may not actually get anything helpful from him.

When I had this kind of convo with XH - he said that he knew he'd made mistakes, but he hopes I would see he's a genuine guy who truly knows what he wants now (ie: a new family with someone else.)

That didn't help me at all and still rankles. I think I must have posted it 20x on this forum! So.....with his mindset right now, he may not offer anything that really helps you...

I hope you have a better day today, and sorry I didn't mean to minimise your pain at all - this recent revelation was difficult and it does take time to work through that, and you're doing really well in tough circumstances I think.

Take care xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
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D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus