Sorry I keep disappearing on you. Dealing with my own demons.
Collin, think that you are heading to a long journey. Your wife is fast to blame and keep saying things like taking some time to think about.
She may be very confused of what direction to take but she has made her mind to be away from you, maybe to check how she feels about being alone, without you. But, and this is a big but, once a wife leaves saying it is some time apart to sort things out, is because she is thinking some things have no hope for repair.
Sweetie, I am not saying this to hurt you. Instead, I just want you to think that your wife may be looking for serious changes and the ones that won't be temporary to make her feel good for a short time.
You will start slow, changing things around you, changing things on the external side of you, and then with time, when the pain is not so cruel, you will look inside yourself and make the permanent changes that fits you, are good for you, mean a lot for you, will be good for you...
The first thing we think is to change things that will bring us closer to our spouses, but sometimes the problem is much deeper and with time we realize that some changes need to come to make us happy alone in the first place, and then we will be able to offer a real love to someone else.
Take this time to reflect what is the real reasons there was unhappiness in your R. Sometimes, you will also notice that there is not all wrongs in you, that your spouse have flaws too.
It is just some thought that I have to offer based on my own experience. I have been dealing with a lot for a long time, and it is only now that I realize it is about me first, no matter what will be the outcome. I am the one that needs to be good for myself and feel good in my own skin.
