Hi Ciluzen. I'm sorry all of these 'friends' turned out to not be such good ones after all. There has never been a truer saying than the one about finding out who your friends are in times of trouble. I have found this to be very true these last few months. Some, at first, seemed to be there but turned out to only want a bit of juicy gossip from the situation, others 'sided' with H immediately and cut off contact, some ran for the hills and some, who have shown themselves to be the truest of friends despite only exchanging Christmas and birthday cards for the last few years! I think with regards to 'joint' friends, we never really know what story our WAH is telling them about the split. I don't think my H is honest with anyone about the real reasons for our situation, because that would mean him admitting his faults and I know he never does that.
I hope you find some true friends to support you and brighten your life as you continue on this new journey.
As for your recent conversation with WAH, I agree with Job, remember how they like to rewrite our entire histories! To listen to my H I am ungrateful and awful and all manner of things. Single handedly bringing up our two children the past 11+ years because of his work commitments as well as running our home and everything to do with it, and remaining faithful and loyal despite being dealt a very different hand from him? Nothing, not a mention, it doesn't count. I am now likening it to the 'rose tinted spectacles' saying, but in reverse. They have 'mud tinted spectacles' - no wonder they cannot see anything clearly, be it present or past!
