GEL:

Just curious, if your husband NEVER desired you again, would you be happy and OK with that. That is exactly what is being asked of the husband of your friend (as well as many of us). Don't MOST people want to be wanted?

Also, what is the solution for this couple. Where is the compromise? He wants desire, she is not capable of desire. Seems like if he stays, he must compromise EVERYTHING away. There is nothing more lonely then being married to a ND wife. There is no way to EC with a ND wife. He is looking at 40-50 years of his life where he will have a friend, but he will have no lover. That is tough too take when the whole purpose of your life is to serve your lover.