[Sotto]

Hi Bright, I'm glad you enjoyed your birthday celebrations. So, from what I read it sounds as though maybe H (through BIL) gave you the gift of a case to go with the lipstick? But you're not sure if that is the case or not and no-one has said directly?

Well, IMHO if you are giving someone a gift, you need to make it from you - and so the person receiving it will know that and appreciate the gesture, offer thanks etc. If you don't do that - they can't really appreciate the gesture, offer thanks and so on.

So, at this point in time, the gift appears to be from BIL and my view would be to not ask outright if it is from H. Though for sure you could mention the gift again and say how much you appreciate. Even mentioning (innocently) that H bought a lovely lipstick and the case from BIL is perfect for it.

I would also say to be careful about mind reading and expectations. The damage of MLC behaviour isn't undone by purchasing a couple of nice gifts and I think it would take a mature, genuine and remorseful approach from him for me to even consider changing my course.

I would say, live your life, try not to worry about where he may be at and be pleasant and open in any interactions.

Just my thoughts anyway Bright xx