Turning Point

[PacLove]

The only thing I was contemplating was letting her know about the upcoming Retrouvaille weekend in August.

I had purchased tickets for a band that my W and I both love, and had talking about seeing for SO LONG... together. When she started browsing through all our bank accounts, she noticed the almost $400 charges to ticketmaster and asked what they were. I blew it off and said "nothing." (at the time, all I wanted to do was tell her how I was planning a wonderful weekend away in a nearby city for us to spend together - as if it would've changed anything)... Instead, a few days later after she kept bugging me for what it was. I printed the tickets, left them on the counter and told her she can take a friend, or sell them herself, because I'd already made plans to be out of town with my brother instead(I hadn't, but I didn't want any pushback).

As for now I'll plan on the letter and see where that goes.

This is great. I'm assuming you did the "worksheet" supplied by Reb, on 'how I hurt my W'? it was like 50 questions or so. I will say, that worksheet did a number on me at the time. I felt so ashamed of myself as I was working through the topics... It's a great exercise to learn about yourself, and your H/W, and provides a great outline for things you need to work on for your future.

Yeah I did the worksheet and got it proofed by Reb.

Funny you mention a concert, we have tickets for a show coming up in Sept which we are supposed to go with another couple... I'll definitely be bowing out of that if things don't change by then.

I made a lot of stupid purchases in our 8 months of trying (August through March...) many of which I regret. I can't even bear myself to tell you what I did for her birthday... and I got the BD 5 days later.