I learnt this the hard way. There is a good time and a bad time to talk about R. Any time you're tired or irritable is not a good time. Any time that you initiate is also not a good time.
You have to let him initiate. Last night was not a good time.
Your H is still in the fog. He's peeking out but any time he feels overwhelmed by guilt or fear, he will scurry back into the rabbit hole.
Sara, your H is wary of your anger because you have exposed OW to her parents. And you have threatened to expose them to their employers. You have to show him that you can handle the truth without lashing out at him. Or he will not dare to tell you the truth.
The things about exposure is tricky. You cant forewarn. And it can drive the A underground.
Sara, sometimes doing or saying nothing actually takes a h&ll more effort but may reap greater rewards.
(((Sara)))
There will be ups and downs. Detaching is about getting down from the roller coaster. Emotions will come and go. Take note of them and then let them go.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
