Thanks a lot for your reactions. NG texted yesterday that her father does have cancer and some two years left, with chemo. I'm sure she's very affected by it.
Vapo | Indeed, I probably scared the squirrel.
Ginger1 | Yes, you're right: if it's meant to be, it will happen. That's why I'm at peace with both options: if she wants to end it, then it wasn't strong enough anyway and I'm not missing out on anything. And no, she never said ILY back. In fact, she still thinks I said it too early. At the time, she said that she couldn't say it since she knew so little of me. A week ago, we talked about how we have different thresholds: for me, I say (and feel) it when I know enough that I want to push ahead with someone. For her, it's after she gathers this information that she feels comfortable saying it.
Maybell | I've been seeing things from her perspective more since we had the discussion and I now understand why I went too fast for her. I'm surprised that you and New Guy haven't said it yet, which speaks mostly about me. I realize more what it means, especially for people like her who had several short-term, failed relationships. She told me she heard it in the past and then the guy was gone within a month.
I feel selfish thinking about our relationship while her father was just diagnosed with cancer. But life goes on and that's my life. I plan to meet with her this week-end to continue, or end, the discussion.
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"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
