Quote: This all sounds so clinical, a womens sex drive just peters out. So how is this women supposed to show love? How can a relationship exist where only one actully shows desire for the other. A LD women gets TONS of desire, while the man gets NOTHING. Meaningful love can ONLY be shown in the way that a spouse wants to receive it. So without desire, there is no meaningful love being displayed.
Cemar, here's part of what I posted to you in another thread. Tell me if the list of some of the things I do indicate love and desire to you.
++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ I don't know how to make myself any clearer to you than I have in the past.
I once avoided NOP's touch, kisses and carresses. I don't recall flirting with him, since my standard operating mode was to avoid him as much as humanly possible while living in the same dwelling.
My sexual drive HAS NOT CHANGED.
But.
I flirt with NOP. I kiss him, caress him, grab his crotch, nuzzle his neck, touch him when I walk by, grab hugs, reach for his hand, kiss-lick-suck his penis, make love in various positions, playfully slap his naked butt when he's coming out of the shower. Last night I walked down the hall wiggling my a$$ at him and laughing about "presenting" to him like baboons do in nature. And I enjoy all of the above.
If *I* can change, *your wife* can too - and her sex drive doesn't have to return to its former glory days.
But you have to *start* somewhere.
Will scheduled sex automatically get you all of the above?
No.
But turning 'round and 'round without pushing for *something* will never get you any of the above.
Please talk to us, share what happens in your day with your wife. Don't just wander off without responding only to pop up later in some other thread repeating the same complaints. Share yourself as well as the complaints!
Quote: At best, the love given by a LD is like brother sister love, which will cause massive resentment when it is supposed to be LOVERS type love.
This is not true. I have shared some of my life and experiences with you that shows this is not true. What NOP gets from me cannot be qualified as sisterly love. So, it is not true that "the love given by a LD is like brother sister love."
