I am pleased you were able to get h to talk to you, even if you did not quite get the reaction you wanted from him. It sounds like it is still currently all about him being the victim and woe is me, he still has a way to go in his journey. You did well to keep the conversation going and the way you handled it - I would probably not have been so cool !!
My thought is to now take some time to allow both yourself and your h to process the talk you had. Also I would let him come to you to arrange a date, otherwise its you taking the lead and right now its him who needs to put is words into action.
Don't forget you in all this, its easy to get caught up and not tend to your own feelings and thoughts. Stay strong, remember your hopes, wants, needs and dreams are important and that you deserve the best that life can give. His criticisms of you are coming from his own issues which he is doing everything possible to avoid dealing with, please dont let them knock you down, they truly are his to own and not yours.
