Some days are better than others

[sandi2]

When I was in an A, I wrote erotic stories, also. Of course it is for OM!!

You reiterate too much. I see this in many LBH'S..............always reiterating............instead of acting.

She is going to play this game every time you call her hand on anything. She will twist and turn the whole thing to look as if she can't trust you. She is trying to knock the spotlight off herself and shine it on you, b/c she believes you will get so distracted convincing her she can trust you, that her untrustworthiness is forgotten in the long discussion.

You may think she was trying to see herself in your shoes, and perhaps she did for a few minutes...........it just won't stop her the next time she gets ready to contact OM. Talks do not work on a WW.

I have noticed a common trait in most nice-guys who come to the board. They want to work things out by talking it out and trying to get the WW to logically see his point. They talk and talk and talk. But forget any action from this type of LBH, b/c he is paralyzed with fear. He will fall back to his old methods of talking it out. Which, in a healthy MR works...........but not when there is a wayward.

IMO, this should not turn into a discussion. You should set a boundary about NC with OM in the home, or in your presence, ..........or something. Then when she breaks it, apply the consequences. No discussions, no bargaining...........just application.