Just a Vanilla Change 30

[Phoebe]

Hi Vanilla. I think that everyone here has engaged in some serious self-recrimination/guilt as part of this messy process. It's not particularly helpful or healing, but it is completely normal. Try not to let this normal reaction be another thing to beat yourself up about. You are on a long journey, one with a very circuitous route.

You deserve to receive as much compassion from yourself as you so generously give to others. Be kind to yourself and remember to put on your own oxygen mask first, lovely V.

If your self care has lapsed, how about finding one small thing that you can do for yourself tomorrow that will soothe you. Put on some beautiful music, take a nice bath, or take time out to read a book you haven't had time to pick up. Whatever you do, frame it positively. Extreme self-care sounds a bit daunting, so how about tomorrow you decide to simply pamper yourself for a little while?

Set yourself up to succeed by setting small, attainable goals for a little while.