MrsNOP, One thing I've always wondered about was this:
How well did NOPkins do at meeting your needs? Was it a stop/start process like the sex was? Were there times when he just sucked rotten eggs and you had to put up with his bad attitude?
Does he make it a point, as you do, to meet this need on a weekly basis?
I realize this is not the forum to be concentrating on a need for recreational companionship but it really is relevant.
I guess I am not asking "does he reciprocate" but more asking, Was the process of him meeting your needs a similar one with bumpy parts and awkward moments, or was it smoother?
My own answer to that is that it was quite similar to the sexual process--it was definitely a learned skill that I had to cultivate. I still have realllly good moments and ones where I'm barely tolerant but I work at it all the time.
Here is where I'm currently at with it: I am a damn fine partner to him in this regard but I rarely initiate the religious convos on my own. I *have* to start doing this! What a meaningful thing that would be to him. I need a Corri Angel sitting on my shoulder reminding me in her subtle ways (lol) to do this.
