My wife walked out 2

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Why are you afraid to stand up to your W? If you don't want to be in the friend zone (a very dangerous place) then don't. If she doesn't like it that's not your problem. You don't have to be a jerk about it just don't accept it. Change the dynamic and take control of YOU and what YOU want. I feel your just happy you talks to you, taking whatever crumbs of hope come your way. That's not how you gain her respect, it's how you lost it.