My wife walked out 2

[RSG]

My response was cut short as the boss started peppering me for info only I could give him!

This scenario scares the poop out of me; however, it reminds me of a line from Frank Costanza. "You want a divorce? You got one!" I guess this would show her what divorce is like. I told her the other day I wasn't terribly comfortable acting as friends, and she got a little angry and said fine we're not friends. FF to now, we're pretty much friends still.

She is scared to death of losing S, just like I am. She has called my folks, and asked them to keep her in the loop while S is there this week. When I was about as forceful as I've ever been, when I confronted her about the affair, I said you have to leave him or we divorce. She started sobbing, saying she needed more time and all she could think of was losing S. She always tries to make it a point that she's "being reasonable" by keeping me in the loop about him. Funny thing is, these days I'm better with him than she is. Those 6-8 mos where she'd go out and leave S with me, we bonded really well.

My Mom said I could do as I was doing, and answer her questions just not OFFER any info. Point being, she's the one who did wrong and ran away from her family (nobody but my DB family knows about affair from my perspective. I'm not sure about hers).

This just feels too much like calling her bluff, and then she'll get angry and file for D now. I don't think she has the $$, but it could make her angry enough that any hopes of getting into MC or coming home would fizzle and D would be 1000% certain. I guess this is viewed as my only shot? Of making her see how much she'd miss S and I if she really wants to leave? Really, really [censored] that I'm the one getting screwed here but I'd have to make a choice that would cost me days w/o any info about my little boy. UGH