Quote: Jen, following up with a bit more of the "how".
Stop spending thought and energy avoiding your husband, thinking negatively about sex, listing out all the ways he irritates you - in other words, whatever negative input you run through your head regarding your husband and sex needs to be expurgiated.
Start replacing those negative recurring thoughts with good thoughts about your husband.
Start listing out and thinking of those characteristics you admire about him. Or those things you know are admirable, whether or not you currently admire him for them.
Hard working, good father, protective, intelligent, sensitive, funny, generous, quick wit, a leader, quick to forgive, knowledgeable, eager, thoughtful, etc. Add the things he has ever done in your relationship, think upon the things he just did yesterday, last week, etc.
Start replacing the entrenched negative thoughts with the positive ones. In the same way that your negative thoughts have been creeping out into to attitudes and behaviors toward your husband, the positive ones will begin to change your interactions with him.
And if you want to make it even better, start expressing those things to him verbally.
I wanted to point out that this advice goes either way--we all do this 'jump to negative conclusions' to each other, not just the LD.
