Turning Point

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I entirely agree that there is not a one size fits all. This whole thing is a process and we have to find what works for each of us and what "fits". I think Sandi2's advice has been fab. I wish she was my DB coach.

I do agree with the pursing though. We know from our own experience and every romance movie we have seen - playing hard to get works. I would agree that even asking your W to attend a conference could be seen as a sign of desperation - and we know that is a turn off.

I really struggle with the pursuing - even to this day, I want to invite her over, etc.

So you may not want to tip your hand - keep the conference for next year.