Turning Point

[PacLove]

PacLove: If Sandi2 says the letter and the conference are pursing - you may want to consider listening.

I don't disagree, but I also don't think there's one size fits all to every situation. Each of our W's are different and our R's are different as are the problems that lead to the WAW....

I've been religiously following the 37 rules now for the better part of 2 months - with the exception of maybe the snooping, that's only been the last month, and that did more harm to me than W as she probably had no idea.

I want to follow the DB process but I feel she's getting more distant then ever and that worries me, although through so many stories I read online here they do say it gets worse before it gets better.

So what makes a turnaround a success? The ones I've read about from many different sources, seem to be the ones where we GAL but still leave a glimmer of light and door open for the S to return, but not being a doormat.

I put my foot down on that this weekend, apparently W was trying to plan a Father's day thing with D, (W never mentioned it to me) but I relayed to D that I wasn't interested in doing anything with W unless she's willing to recommit. D is pretty bummed as it's W's weekend, D wants to spend Sunday with me, but that will likely only happen if I'm open to W spending it with us as well.