MLCers often think that we use them, i.e., look to them to be sperm donors, nothing more than a pay check, or a handyman. It's their screwed up mentality during their depression that has them thinking this way. They haven't looked in the mirror lately to see just how much they take for granted and that they expect us to be there for them and their every whim.
Bottom line...a marriage takes two people and they should work together and it's a give and take...not all one sided of giving (which is a large majority of cases, the LBS has done).
Your h has a lot to think about. I'm glad you had another short discussion w/him about the "friends".
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
