I don't misunderstand you, I was merely going off on my own little tangent. For me (and speaking only for me here) I find that when I start looking to others successes it starts shifting my focus on my R. I start seeing that some of the things people have tried, that have worked for them....don't work for me, and it brings me further down.
But...since you and CeMar have asked for some success stories...people have put some out there for you.
It's a sad but true fact, not all M's get through this successfully....some people simply never get it. But some spouses also don't keep trying to solve the problem until their S "gets it", they don't keep up the persistence, they don't GAL, or set boundaries/consequences they are willing to reinforce to get their S's attention. Sad but true (and I'm sure you don't fit this) some H/W's don't even really communicate the problem to the other person. It's amazing how many couples never talk about sex at all.
I'm going to continue this in your thread so I don't hijack this further...
