A new crossroad reached

[mleigh4]

Good question HW. I really only hear positive from him when about S and grades. Other than that he is pretty doom and gloom. He does get happy when playing with S and dog.

Yesterday he made a real point of needing to get this stuff off his chest. When I would say I dont want to rehash all that, I moved on, he said that wasnt fair for me to say I dont want to talk about it when he needed to. That was when I finally just listened

Also another major point he wanted to make was how I say he has given up on our marriage. He felt I did that during those low times. He felt I was the one who stopped trying first. .

Maybe getting this all out might help him to move out of being stuck? Maybe that was a first step like he said. It was the first I really felt I was listening and understanding his points in a long time. He would look relieved when I would recap his feelings, to make sure I understood his point.

We will see how this plays out. I hope his vent will help him to start looking within.