Quote: One book I'm reading called Real Love says that nothing you do will change your partner until they are ready to change ON THEIR OWN (we knew that), so you basically have three choices:
1) live with it (the behavior) and hate it 2) live with and like it 3) leave.
That may be a little harsh, but I think it's fairly close. I see it as:
1) Live with it and quietly stew in resentment;
2) Live with it and deal -- continuously -- with the the spouse over it, with very little hope of success, that you can control, anyway.
3) Leave
There does, of course, seem to be a "2b" option that works, at least temporarily, and that's:
