Quote: The process is very hard, I certainly won't deny that, and it has many ups and downs to it, can't deny that either. But for me, I can't look to others to motivate me, I have to look within myself for that motivation.
GEL,
You misunderstand what I'm saying. I am trying to look within myself for my motivation, but I am hoping to find evidence of others' success to use as that motivation. So shoot me, I'm a logical, empirical guy.
I've been in "stuck", don'tgiveachit mode for the last several years, and trying to kick myself in the azz and get off the dime to start the long hard road back to the land of milk & honey and endless kisses. This board helps me in many ways -- advice, friendship, humor, or even just to get a rant off my chest. But one of the things I was hoping it would provide for me was a sort of diary of others in my situation's successes, so that I could use them as motivation to begin the hard work I need to do to repair my marriage. I just keep seeing the ones who tried the damnedest, and the ones whose wives' sound the most like my own , having no success.
