Shawn - The best way to get more people to post is 1) you to keep posting on your thread. 2) post on other threads...even if it is just for support.
Originally Posted By: ShawnJ
I basically told her I couldn't do this anymore and that I can't do anything if she isn't communicating with me and I can't fix the marriage if she isn't willing to try
So have you read either of the books? Judging by these comments, Id wager "no". Id start by reading those. Then read the homework in Cadet's links in your first thread.
Some bullet points: - in your wife's eyes there is no marriage anymore. So there is nothing for either of you to work on. -Stop trying to do things for your marriage. Focus on you. How can you be the best version of ShawnJ? - Stop pursuing your wife. Stop asking these kinds of questions. She's not your wife anymore. Think of her like you want a friendly neighbor. - Stop harassing your ex-wife. She's your W's friend. You cant control what she says and to whom anymore.
