There is no magic here. We "HD" people are just like "LD" people. We want to make our spouse happy and we want to be happy. I think both people want the EC so that isn't an HD thing alone. The frequency is the issue where the individuals differ but if there is frequency with no EC then no one is happy. Does that make sense?
We are "chasing our tails" so to speak because in every R the situation changes frequently, people grown and change, medical and financial issues arise etc... That is why there is no universal, easy answer.
