I kind of abandoned my last post a couple weeks ago because no one was responding to it. Here is what's going on : My wife walked out three months ago with our 2 year old son. We had been having problems for, she says, about two years. I went through a lot of emotional problems and depression, treated her poorly, and was pretty absent emotionally. Throughout the separation, she has gone back and forth between speaking to me and not speaking to me (unless it has to do with our son). A couple weeks ago she said she would consider going to marriage counseling (she brought it up). Then, I had a freak-out and fight over the phone with my ex wife (note :my wife lives with my ex-wife. They are best friends. I was the one who introduced them). I basically felt like my ex-wife was trying to keep my wife from me because she would guilt trip her every time she said she was thinking about working on things with me. So, after the fight with my ex-wife, my wife stopped talking to me again. Then started again, very casually. When I pick my son up from her in the mornings to take him to school, she seems very distant and very casual - almost how you would talk to a casual friend or acquaintance. When I told her I was confused about her not touching me for two weeks, not even a hug, not really being interested or seeming to care anymore, she just said to stop being that way and "we will talk tomorrow", "everything is fine" etc. etc. Well, I ended up pushing her too far I'm afraid. I basically told her I couldn't do this anymore and that I can't do anything if she isn't communicating with me and I can't fix the marriage if she isn't willing to try etc. etc. Then she blows up at me : "I don't miss you. I don't love you. You need to accept it. You are in denial. I want a divorce. Please don't contest it." etc. etc. So that's where I am now. And I need advice. What should I be doing right now?
