Sorry Sandi, do I believe all of these things, no I don't. Do I agree with them all either, no. I can see where some of her 'feelings' can be felt due to some of my nice guy traits and as has been talked about in validating her feelings but I'm not and haven't rolled over everything she says. It was more a case of just writing down things so I could see some of the valid bits and, as you say, the self justification parts.
I know the areas I have fallen down and, like you said, been the nice guy, pleaser type. I also know where I have given up myself in order to try and be what she seemed to want but by doing so lost my own direction, wants etc. these are the things I'm working on. Putting my focus back on me and finding someone that likes that person rather than changing myself into someone I don't want to be. I know some of these things are her problems and not mine. Didn't mean for it to come across that I'm going to change all these things to please her. I have been making more decisions of what I want and worrying less about what she thinks about it.
She wanted to call and talk to me last night and normally I would have made the time to do so but told her I wasn't available as I was out which was the truth.
