If you're wife is choosing a friend over you, then you're not the number one dude in her life.
I'm not sure its quite so black and white.
Yes it is. It is exactly that black and white! If the wayward is claiming the OM is a "friend" and that's all he is.........then there should be no confusion, no complexity, no hard decision choosing your husband and marriage over some so-called friendship. Truth is that it's not a friendship at all. It's an affair.
Look, the WW will mess with your head and make you think you are the unreasonable person in this triangle she's made in the M.
She had absolutely no problem "seeing" how a close friendship with your ex would not be healthy for your MR. So don't go off the rails trying to make an exception out of what she's doing now.
I understand. She had always claimed that I still had feelings for my ex, which in truth, I probably did. But I man'd up and did what I thought was right. She claims there aren't any feelings for this guy.
But regardless, that's not my problme to deal with right now because my W left me, so she can do whatever she wants. Her actions will dictate how I proceed.
