In the UK - PT 18 'Dark O'Clock'

[roist]

Maybe you could be perfect, dbing perfectly, ideal father, super physical condition, good natured with pm a etc etc and it would not make a difference.This is not about you. It is about your W and until it clicks inside her, your efforts will not be enough .

That is why we are advised to concentrate on us. I think you have done well but need a little step further down the "ME"route. You need to figure out what that is for you and fill your life with more fun and happiness.

No one is saying that you should date. You decide when you are ready for that.

I advise you to be the lighthouse. Weather it out the time it takes. Keep your hope if it gives you strength, but put it in a box at the back of the top shelf in a cupboard. Don't carry it with you.

You do seem obsessed with the notion of her feeling the loss. And in your part in making her feel it. You don't know what she feels and you cannot make her feel anything.

Last week you almost reacted to her and thought of filing for D yourself. Revisit that mindset. What would that huddy be doing differently than you?

Best wishes.