Detachment, anxiety and the end of limbo

[Phoebe]

I forgot to answer your questions, Grl.

No. I never heard the concerns from H about feeling inferior or that I treated him like a child until after he ran away. He also said hat he had no identity outside of being my husband. I'm not sure if these were long-term concerns of H that he did not share, or if they were rationalization she used to support his starting and then continuing down the slippery slope toward the affair and abandonment. Was he gaslighting or were they true complaints that he buried?

All I know is that hearing them hurt a lot. It's too late to do anything about those concerns within my MR, and it has just served to scare me about future relationship prospects.