Mrs. NOP, in one of your recent posts to Lou, you referred to y'all's "limited success." I'm curious as to what you meant by that. Many of us look to you and NOP as Emerald City-- once we get where you are, we won't have to struggle so much any more. Do y'all still struggle at all with the sex issue?
The "limited success" reference was in context of the 2+ years we were hammering away at the situation.
From post to Lou: "In our interminable discussions during the 2+ years we waded through this, I suspect that NOP thought I was just trying to deflect the sex issue by bringing up the relational problems. And I could see how it would have appeared that way. Our limited success has been detailed here by NOP, with the occasional "I think we've made it" amidst a great deal of dead and dying monkeys.
As you've noted above, the "turning the corner" point came when NOP agreed that I might have issues within the relationship that were as important to me as his were to him, that needed to be addressed." End repost:
NOP and I do not struggle with sex anymore and haven't in a long time. As HP so aptly put it, we're in the groove. We still make love daily. There aren't any more undercurrents, riptides and pits of doom to crawl through.
There are days when we are more emotionally connected than at others, but we have never gone back to the level of disconnectiveness that was our daily life for years.
