Detachment, anxiety and the end of limbo

[Painter]

Phoebe, is it your birthday today? Are you not spending it with family? Here's a birthday (((((((((((Phoebe)))))))))) (or just a hug if it's not your bday.)

I'm sorry your H wasn't man enough or had the confidence to cherish your skills and abilities. It's no reflection on you. You don't seem like a critical harpy, I wonder if maybe H just didn't have the drive to match yours and it made him feel inferior about himself.

WH has said something along the same lines to me - that I talk to him like he's a child and that I am critical and never happy with him (perfectionist). I have tried to work on those habits, because they're not good behaviors and I know he had a point. I also feel like he put me in that role a bit, too. I know WH admired me and still does - but OW makes him feel better about himself.

It sounds like your H is engaging in very 'young' behavior and wants a very different lifestyle than you do. Don't take that personally.

I'm sorry you're having a bad day. And I want to smack that neighbor of yours, talk about insensitive bafoon!